-- Holiday Letdown
Dear Letdown: Most important, congratulations on your generous desire to give your man a special gift he really wants. The way to make sure that your present is unique (in other words, that his parents don't steal your thunder) is to conspire in advance. Tell the 'rents, "I'm planning on giving Jack a ------. Because we've had some duplication in the past, I thought I would check with you first to avoid the problem this year." Let's hope they reply by saying that they'll choose a different gift. You could even suggest one.
If they insist on giving what you had planned, at least you'll have some notice and can pick something else. One final idea: Perhaps Jack would really love a gift that is too expensive for you or his parents to buy individually. In this new spirit of cooperation, why not go in together on one big present? That way everybody wins.
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